I have had the honor of shooting for Becky and Adam on 3previousoccasions, so when Becky texted and said they were getting married and could I be there, I said I would be there with bells on…or at least my camera. The couple wanted a very small and intimate wedding so the ceremony took place inside of Waltham’s beautiful city hall, which is clad in columns, chandeliers, and stone lions. It felt like more like I was shooting in a beautiful function hall than a government building. Once the ceremony was done we did a little mini shoot out in the park that adjoins city hall. Just for fun we got out my cathedral veil and Becky totally rocked it.
Nowadays everyone needs a headshot. LinkedIn, Facebook, and company websites put your image out there. You want to put your best face forward…LITERALLY!
Here are a few tips and tricks to help you get the best men’s business headshot possible.
1. Tweezers and trimmers are your friends. A few days before your session you should spend some quality time with a mirror and a set of tweezers to make sure that your eyebrows are well-shaped and trimmed. Then get real close to the mirror and check that you don’t have any stray nose hairs coming out. You do NOT want these fellas to make an appearance in your headshot!
The Phillips Norelco nose hair trimmer can make the job much easier, it even does eyebrows. Be sure not to leave this manscaping until the morning before your session because you might have some temporary red irritation from plucking/trimming. If you aren’t comfortable doing this yourself, your local barber or salon can take care of it for you.
2. Visit your barber or stylist beforehand. Usually we look our best when we have recently had a haircut. Don’t do a drastic change, you still want to look like YOU. Just have the barber or stylist clean up your look. If you have a beard, don’t forget to have them tend to that as well. Going for the clean shaven look? Have your barber give you a close shave with a straight razor. If a visit to the barber isn’t in the cards, bring a razor and shaving cream with you to the session or give yourself a shave right before you go to the studio for the shoot. Make sure to use aftershave to cut down on skin irritation.
3. Check yourself out. Take a moment in front of a mirror to see if everything looks in the right place. Do you have anything in your teeth? Is your shirt tucked in? Is your hair the way you like it? If you are wearing a tie in your headshot always take the time to double check that it is nicely tightened and centered. Once you enter your session, be sure to ask your photographer to confirm if the tie is in the right orientation. A tie that is not tightened and off-center looks sloppy. In head shots, a Windsor knot looks the best. It fills up the area where the collar buttons the best. If you don’t know how to do a Windsor knot this video will walk you through step by step.
4. Sit up straight. You want to look confident in your headshot. The easiest way to do that is by making sure you are exercising good posture. Even if the photographer asks you to lean forward, keep your back straight and your shoulders down. Bend at the hips instead of hunching over.
5. Try different smiles. During your session try a variety of looks. Start with your traditional big picture smile, then switch it up to serious, then smile but with your mouth closed and no teeth showing at all. Then a little bit of teeth showing. Then a great big toothy grin. If you have a gap, or crooked or missing teeth, don’t be afraid to smile with your teeth showing. Your photographer should know different techniques to minimize attention on these areas while still maintaining the approachability that a full smile results in.
6. Trust the photographer. When you sit down, or stand up, for your session the photographer is likely to tell you to turn your head and body in ways you think can’t possibly look good. Surprisingly though, what feels totally strange actually looks great in a headshot. People have the tendency to lean back away from the camera, this leads to the photographer seeing right up your nose. That’s why they tell you to lean forward. So just know you are in good hands and that the best way to get a great shot is to listen to what the photographer tells you do do and to trust that he or she know what they are doing. Their job is to make you look your best.
As professional photographers we recognize how important it is to capture the moment. Yet so many of us rarely step out from behind the camera and get in front of the lens WITH our own families. We owe it to our loved ones and ourselves to be photographed as well. The little snaps and selfies we take on our phones every day are nice, but they are NOTHING compared to the quality we get from a real photo session. You and your children will regularly look back at professional photos and cherish them for the rest of your life. The same cannot be said for the thousands of photos on your iPhone.
So for my 10th wedding anniversary I asked my husband, Matt, for a very special photoshoot. I wanted to go back to where we got married, the magnificent Pleasantdale Chateau, wear my original wedding dress, bring our 2 children with us, and have one of the top wedding photographers in the world, Vanessa Joy, take our photos, on the day of our actual 10 year anniversary. I knew this was a pretty tall order. Amazingly, EVERY piece of my dream shoot came true! On the day of our actual wedding, it poured rain all day so all our shots were taken indoors. This time around the weather cooperated and Vanessa was able to use so much of the beautiful Pleasandale’s perfectly manicured grounds. It felt like a fairy tale getting to go there again and to have our photos taken without the stress of a wedding day’s hectic schedule. My husband was beaming with his real smile, not his camera smile, that day. He said it was so easy to smile during the shoot because he was having so much fun. He even pulled off the lift we learned for our first dance all those years ago. Vanessa had a way of really capturing the “true Vail and Matt.” I love that she recorded the little playful looks we always give each other. Matt and I are so incredibly grateful to the Pleasantdale Chateau for letting us go back there to have this wonderful experience we will never forget. And thanks to Vanessa Joy, we have spectacular pictures to remember it by. It was a real “Joy!”
Having a professional shoot as a photographer wasn’t just beneficial to me personally, I found it could be very helpful for my business as well. Putting myself in my clients’ shoes was an eye opening experience. A photography subject can feel vulnerable. We as photographers need to be reminded of that and have to be there for our subjects and make them feel at ease. Seeing how other photographers approach the same type of genre you shoot from the other side of the lens can also be great. That day I wasn’t just the subject of Vanessa’s lighting setups, I was a student as well. I tried to observe all the off camera flash techniques she used (that are featured in her new book), the ways in which she had me and my family pose, and the way she takes the time to frame an image just right (see the one with the gold foliage that makes a circle around us). At the end of the session I felt like I had gotten a two-for-one special, a photo session with Vanessa Joy and a private lesson with her as well!
As a last bonus, by including my children they got a better idea about what Mama does for work. I am pretty sure my daughter now thinks that just about everyone goes to work with a giant bag of camera equipment. Thank you again Vanessa for being so great with my kids as well!